Your husband, considering he has brought this information to you and explained his desires to you... is not a man, at least, not for all intents and purposes. I do NOT mean this in a disparaging way - FAR from it! What I mean is, that your husband (given the option of course) would probably rather identify as a baby / sissy baby than as a man.
I know what you're thinking "I thought this was going to be real information, not just fetish-y sexy talk"? Well, I challenge you then, ask him. That's right, ask him right now if he identifies more as a man, or as a baby / sissy baby (whichever the case may be).
No matter what his reply was, you got your answer, didn't you? He is not a man, no, he is a baby, or a sissy baby. I know these terms carry shock value, but they are true and once you come to accept them you can begin to accept and understand your husband.
Understanding that your husband is a baby / sissy baby is something of a shock, is it not? I know it was for me when my husband of 6 years brought this information to me. However, a little deep thought can make the process much easier to digest.
For example: It is not the diaper, but the realization that he needs the diaper that excites him and ultimately traps him.
No, he does not "need" the diaper in the traditional sense, but rather, in a psychological sense. He needs the diaper because it represents a form of himself that is otherwise unattainable. So yes, he needs his didees, and the fact that not having them affects him is the most trapping truth of all.
This goes for everything else as well. He most likely wants to make his own decisions... however, he is incapable of this freedom. Think about it honestly... when is your husband the most:
* Hygenic
* Friendly
* Happy
* Compassionate
* Easy Going / Relaxed?
It's when he is being his true little self. He needs his Mommy to make decisions for him and to take the reigns of his life away from him. When you do, you are not only helping him... you are freeing him to be his true and beautiful self.
I used to have a terrible time with my hubby. Encouraging him to do simple things like chores, exercise, or even basic hygienic practices became a nightmare. We had two children, a son and a daughter - and sometimes it was easier to get them to shower than it was to get my husband to shower! There were times when I wanted to scream! This was, of course, before I understood the problem.
If you understand the main causes of problems such as sadness, laziness, and hygienic laziness are depression and anxiety, you start out on the right path to understanding. Secondly, try putting yourself in your husband's shoes (or booties!), it's really not that hard. We have all had to experience times where we were forced to act like something other than ourselves.
Maybe a family member or in-law was for a visit and you had to pretend this or that? Perhaps at your job you are required and expected to play a certain role? Whatever your particular circumstance may be, we have all been there.
Now imagine that feeling every moment of every day, for how ever many years your husband has been experiencing these emotions.
How motivated would you be to pick up the garbage, walk the dog, clean the garage, or even shower? Procrastination and laziness are maddening for a spouse, I understand. But if you try and track the root of these behaviors, rather than just expressing anger at the behaviors themselves, a clear picture begins to form.
The Point? A happy, comfortable, and secure human being is a productive human being. When my husband finally felt at peace with himself, and understood that he was loved and accepted, he became so much happier - not to mention cleaner. :-)
For example: It is not the diaper, but the realization that he needs the diaper that excites him and ultimately traps him.
No, he does not "need" the diaper in the traditional sense, but rather, in a psychological sense. He needs the diaper because it represents a form of himself that is otherwise unattainable. So yes, he needs his didees, and the fact that not having them affects him is the most trapping truth of all.
This goes for everything else as well. He most likely wants to make his own decisions... however, he is incapable of this freedom. Think about it honestly... when is your husband the most:
* Hygenic
* Friendly
* Happy
* Compassionate
* Easy Going / Relaxed?
It's when he is being his true little self. He needs his Mommy to make decisions for him and to take the reigns of his life away from him. When you do, you are not only helping him... you are freeing him to be his true and beautiful self.
I used to have a terrible time with my hubby. Encouraging him to do simple things like chores, exercise, or even basic hygienic practices became a nightmare. We had two children, a son and a daughter - and sometimes it was easier to get them to shower than it was to get my husband to shower! There were times when I wanted to scream! This was, of course, before I understood the problem.
If you understand the main causes of problems such as sadness, laziness, and hygienic laziness are depression and anxiety, you start out on the right path to understanding. Secondly, try putting yourself in your husband's shoes (or booties!), it's really not that hard. We have all had to experience times where we were forced to act like something other than ourselves.
Maybe a family member or in-law was for a visit and you had to pretend this or that? Perhaps at your job you are required and expected to play a certain role? Whatever your particular circumstance may be, we have all been there.
Now imagine that feeling every moment of every day, for how ever many years your husband has been experiencing these emotions.
How motivated would you be to pick up the garbage, walk the dog, clean the garage, or even shower? Procrastination and laziness are maddening for a spouse, I understand. But if you try and track the root of these behaviors, rather than just expressing anger at the behaviors themselves, a clear picture begins to form.
The Point? A happy, comfortable, and secure human being is a productive human being. When my husband finally felt at peace with himself, and understood that he was loved and accepted, he became so much happier - not to mention cleaner. :-)